Love

I have been following blogs for a while now; however, while I was in Africa I was unable to keep up with my blogs. Since I have been home, I have really enjoyed being able to read monergism’s blog. Today’s posting is an exhortation about what love actually is, challenges readers to examine themselves, and to practice true Christian love. Here is the article:

LOVE

by J. C. Ryle (1816-1900)

Preface

For more than a century, J. C. Ryle was best known for his clear and lively writings on practical and spiritual themes. His great aim in all his ministry was to encourage strong and serious Christian living. But Ryle was not naive in his understanding of how this should be done. He recognized that, as a pastor of the flock of God, he had a responsibility to guard Christ’s sheep and to warn them whenever he saw approaching dangers. His penetrating comments are as wise and relevant today, as they were when he first wrote them. His sermons and other writings have been consistently recognized, and their usefulness and impact have continued to the present day, even in the outdated English of the author’s own day.

Why then should expositions already so successful and of such stature and proven usefulness require adaptation, revision, rewrite or even editing? The answer is obvious. To increase its usefulness to today’s reader the language in which it was originally written needs updating.

Though his sermons have served other generations well, just as they came from the pen of the author in the nineteenth century, they still could be lost to present and future generations simply because, to them, the language is neither readily nor fully understandable.

My goal, however, has not been to reduce the original writing to the vernacular of our day. It is designed primarily for you who desire to read and study comfortably and at ease in the language of our time. Only obviously archaic terminology and passages obscured by expressions not totally familiar in our day have been revised. However, neither Ryle’s meaning nor intent have been tampered with. Tony Capoccia

All Scripture references are taken from the HOLY BIBLE: NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION (C) 1978 by the New York Bible Society, used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.
This updated and revised manuscript is copyrighted ã 1998 by Tony Capoccia. All rights reserved.

“Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:13).

 

LOVE

LOVE is rightly called “the Queen of Christian graces.” “The goal of this command,” says Paul, “is love” (1 Timothy 1:5). It is a grace which all people profess to admire. It seems a plain practical thing which everybody can understand. It is none of “those troublesome doctrinal points” about which Christians disagree. Thousands, I suspect, would not be ashamed to tell you that they know nothing about justification, or regeneration, or about the work of Christ, or of the Holy Spirit. But nobody, I believe, would like to say that he knows nothing about love! If men possess nothing else in religion, they always flatter themselves that they possess “love.”

A few plain thoughts about love will be very useful. There are false notions about love which need to be dispelled. There are mistakes about it which require to be rectified. In my admiration of love I yield to none. But I am bold to say that in many minds the whole subject seems completely misunderstood.

I. First, Let me show, “the place the Bible gives to love.”

II. Secondly, let me show, “what the love of the Bible really is.”

III. Thirdly, let me show, “where true love comes from.”

IV. Lastly, let me show, “why love is `the greatest’ of the graces.”

I ask for the sincere attention of my readers to the subject. My heart’s desire and prayer to God is that the growth of love may be promoted in this sin-burdened world. In nothing does the fallen condition of man show itself so strongly as in the scarcity of Christian love. There is little faith on earth, little hope, little knowledge of Divine things. But nothing, after all, is as scarce as real love.

I. Let me show “the place which the Bible gives to love.”

I begin with this point in order to establish the immense practical importance of my subject. I do not forget that there are many Christians in this present day who almost refuse to look at anything practical in Christianity. They can talk of nothing but two or three favorite doctrines. Now I want to remind my readers that the Bible contains much about practice as well as about doctrine, and that one thing to which it attaches great weight is “love.”

I turn to the New Testament, and ask men to observe what it says about love. In all religious inquiries there is nothing like letting the Scripture speak for itself. There is no surer way of finding out truth than the old way of turning to simple Bible texts. Texts were our Lord’s weapons, both in answering Satan, and in arguing with the Jews. Texts are the guides we must never be ashamed to refer to in the present day–What does the Scripture say? What is written? How do you read it?

Let us hear what Paul says to the Corinthians: “If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:1-

3). Let us hear what Paul says to the Colossians: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:14). Let us hear what Paul says to Timothy: “The goal of this command is love, which comes from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith” (1 Timothy 1:5). Let us hear what Peter says: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Let us hear what our Lord Jesus Christ Himself says about that love, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another” (John 13:34-35). Above all, let us read our Lord’s account of the last judgment, and mark that the lack of love will condemn millions, “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink” (Matthew 25:41-42).

Let us hear what Paul says to the Romans: “Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellow man has fulfilled the law” (Romans 13:8). Let us hear what Paul says to the Ephesians: “Live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:2). Let us hear what John says: “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love” (1 John 5:7-8).

I shall make no comment upon these texts. I think it better to place them before my readers in their naked simplicity, and to let them speak for themselves. If any one is disposed to think the subject of this paper a matter of insignificance, I will only ask him to look at these texts, and to think again. He that would take down “love” from the high and holy place it occupies in the Bible, and treat it as a matter of secondary importance, must settle his account with God’s Word. I certainly shall not waste time in arguing with him.

To my own mind the evidence of these texts appears clear, plain, and incontrovertible. They show the immense importance of love as one of the “things that accompany salvation.” They prove that it has a right to demand the serious attention of all who call themselves Christians, and that those who despise the subject are only exposing their own ignorance of Scripture.

II. Let me show secondly, “what the love of the Bible really is.”

I think it of great importance to have clear views on this point. It is precisely here that mistakes about love begin. Thousands delude themselves with the idea that they have “love,” when they don’t due from a downright ignorance of Scripture. Their love is not the love described in the Bible.

(a) The love of the Bible does not consist in giving to the poor. It is a common delusion to suppose that it does. Yet Paul tells us plainly that a man may “give all he possesses to the poor” (1 Corinthians 13:3), and not have love. That a loving man will “remember the poor,” there can be no question. (Galatians 6:10) That he will do all he can to assist them, relieve them, and lighten their burdens, I don’t for a moment deny. All I say is that this does not make up “love.” It is easy to spend a fortune in giving away money, and soup, and bread, and blankets, and clothing, and yet to be utterly destitute of Bible love.

(b) The love of the Bible does not consist in never disapproving anybody’s conduct. Here is another very common delusion! Thousands pride themselves on never condemning others, or saying they are wrong, whatever they may do. They convert the precept of our Lord, “Do not judge,” into an excuse for having no unfavorable opinion at all of anybody. They pervert His prohibition of rash and censorious judgments into a prohibition of all judgment whatsoever. Your neighbor may be a drunkard, a liar, a violent man. Never mind! “It is not love,” they tell you, “to pronounce him, wrong.” You are to believe that he has a good heart at the bottom! This idea of love is, unhappily, a very common one. It is full of mischief. To throw a veil over sin, and to refuse to call things by their right names–to talk of “hearts” being good, when “lives” are flatly wrong–to shut our eyes against wickedness, and excuse their immorality–this is not Scriptural love.

(c) The love of the Bible does not consist in never disapproving anybody’s religious opinions. Here is another most serious and growing delusion. There are many who pride themselves on never pronouncing others mistaken, whatever views they may hold. Your neighbor, for example, may be a Roman Catholic, or a Mormon. But the “love” of many says that you have no right to think him wrong! If he is sincere, it is “unloving” to think unfavorably of his spiritual condition! From such love may I ever be delivered! At this rate the Apostles were wrong in going out to preach to the Gentiles! At this rate there is no use in missions! At this rate we had better close our Bibles, and shut up our churches! Everybody is right, and nobody is wrong!

Everybody is going to heaven, and nobody is going to hell!

Such love is a monstrous caricature. To say that all are equally right in their opinions, though their opinions flatly contradict one another–to say that all are equally on their way to heaven, though their doctrinal sentiments are as opposite as black and right–this is not Scriptural love. Love like this pours contempt on the Bible, and talks as if God had not given it as a written test of truth. Love like this confuses all our notions of heaven and would fill it with a discordant inharmonious rabble. True love does not think everybody is right in their doctrines. True love cries–“Do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.”–“If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not take him into your house or welcome him” (2 John 1:10).

I leave the negative side of the question here. I have dwelt upon it at some length because of the days in which we live and the strange notions which abound. Let me now turn to the positive side. Having shown what love is not, let me now show what it is.

Love is that “love,” which Paul places first among those fruits brought forth in the heart of a believer. “The fruit of the Spirit is love” (Galatians 5:22). Love to God, such as Adam had before the fall, is its first feature. He that has love, desires to love God with heart, and soul and mind, and strength. Love to man is its second feature. He that has love, desires to love his neighbor as himself. This is indeed that view in which the word “love” in Scripture is more especially regarded. When I speak of a believer having “love” in his heart, I mean that he has love to both God and man. When I speak of a believer having “love” I mean more particularly that be has love to man.

The love of the Bible will show itself in a believer’s actions. It will make him ready to do kind acts to everyone within his reach–both to their bodies and souls. It will not let him be content with soft words and kind wishes. It will make him diligent in doing all that lies in his power to lessen the sorrow and increase the happiness of others. Like his Master, he will care more for ministering than for being ministered to, and will look for nothing in return. Like his Master’s great apostle he will very willingly “spend and be spent” for others, even though they repay him with hatred, and not with love. True love does not want rewards. Its work is its reward.

The love of the Bible will show itself in a believer’s “readiness to bear” evil as well as to do good. It will make him patient under provocation, forgiving when injured, meek when unjustly attacked, quiet when slandered. It will make him bear much, put up with much and look over much, submit often and deny himself often, all for the sake of peace. It will make him control his temper, and check his tongue. True love is not always asking, “What are my rights? Am I treated as I deserve?” but, “How can I best promote peace? How can I do that which is most edifying to others?”

The love of the Bible will show itself in the “general spirit and demeanor” of a believer. It will make him kind, unselfish, good-natured, good-tempered, and considerate of others. It make him gentle, friendly, and courteous, in all the daily relations of private life, thoughtful for others’ comfort, tender for others’ feelings, and more anxious to give pleasure than to receive. True love never envies others when they prosper, nor rejoices in the calamities of others when they are in trouble. At all times it will believe, and hope, and try to put to good use the actions of others. And even at the worst, it will be full of pity, mercy, and compassion.

Would we like to know where the true Pattern of love like this can be found? We have only to look at the life of our Lord Jesus Christ, as described in the Gospels, and we will see it perfectly exemplified. Love radiated forth in everything He did. His daily life was an incessant “going about” doing good.–Love radiated forth in all His manner. He was continually hated, persecuted, slandered, misrepresented. But He patiently endured it all. No angry word ever fell from His lips. No ill-temper ever appeared in His demeanor. “When they hurled their insults at Him, He did not retaliate; when He suffered, He made no threats” (1 Peter 2:23). Love radiated forth in all His spirit and deportment. The law of kindness was ever on His lips. Among weak and ignorant disciples, among sick and sorrowful petitioners for help and relief, among tax-gathers and sinners, among Pharisees and Sadducees, He was always one and the same–kind and patient to all.

And yet, let it be remembered, our blessed Master never flattered sinners, or connived at sin. He never shrunk from exposing wickedness in its true colors, or from rebuking those who would cleave to it. He never hesitated to denounce false doctrine by whomsoever it might be held, or to exhibit false practice in its true colors and the certain end to which it tends. He called things by their right names. He spoke as freely of hell and the fire that is not quenched, as of heaven and the kingdom of glory. He has left on record an everlasting proof that perfect love does not require us to approve everybody’s life or opinions, and that it is quite possible to condemn false doctrine and wicked practice, and yet to be full of love at the same time.

I have now set before my readers the true nature of Scriptural love. I have given a slight and very brief account of what it is not, and what it is. I cannot pass on without suggesting two practical thoughts, which press home on my mind with weighty force, and I hope may press home on others.

You have heard of love. Think, for a moment, how deplorably little love there is upon earth! How conspicuous is the absence of true love among Christians! I do not speak of the heathen, I now speak of Christians. What angry tempers, what passions, what selfishness, what bitter tongues, are to be found in private families! What strifes, what quarrels, what spitefulness, what malice, what revenge, what envy between neighbors and fellow Church members! What jealousies and contentions between those of varying doctrines! “Where is love?” we may well ask,–“Where is love? Where is the mind of Christ?” when we look at the spirit which reigns in the world. No wonder that Christ’s cause stands still, and sin abounds, when men’s hearts know so little of love! Surely, we can say “When the Son of Man comes, will he find love on the earth?”

Think, for another thing, what a happy world this would be if there was more love. It is the lack of love which causes half the misery there is upon earth. Sickness, and death, and poverty will not account for more than half the sorrows. The rest come from ill-temper, ill-nature, strifes, quarrels, lawsuits, malice, envy, revenge, frauds, violence, wars, and the like. It would be one great step towards doubling the happiness of mankind, and halving their sorrows, if all men and women were full of Scriptural love.

III. Let me show, thirdly, “where the love of the Bible comes.”

Love, such as I have described, is certainly not natural to man. Naturally, we are all more or less selfish, envious, ill-tempered, spiteful, ill- natured, and unkind. We have only to observe children, when left to themselves, to see the proof of this. Let boys and girls grow up without proper training and education, and you will not see one of them possessing Christian love. Mark how some of them think first of themselves, and their own comfort and advantage! Mark how others are full of pride, passion, and evil tempers! How can we account for it? There is but one reply. The natural heart knows nothing of true love.

The love of the Bible will never be found except in a heart prepared by the Holy Spirit. It is a tender plant, and will never grow except in one soil. You may as well expect grapes on thorns, or figs on thistles, as look for love when the heart is not right.

The heart in which love grows is a heart changed, renewed, and transformed by the Holy Spirit. The image and likeness of God, which Adam lost at the fall, has been restored to it, however feeble and imperfect the restoration may appear. It is to “participate in the Divine nature” by union with Christ and Sonship to God; and one of the first features of that nature is love. (2 Peter 1:4)

Such a heart is deeply convinced of sin, hates it, flees from it, and fights with it from day to day. And one of the prime elements of sin which it daily labors to overcome, is selfishness and lack of love.

Such a heart is deeply aware of its mighty debt to our Lord Jesus Christ. It feels continually that it owes to Him who died for us on the cross, all its present comfort, hope, and peace. How can it show forth its gratitude? What can it render to its Redeemer? If it can do nothing else, it strives to be like Him, to walk in His footsteps, and, like Him, to be full of love. The fact that, “God has poured out His love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit” is the surest fountain of Christian love. Love will produce love.

I ask my readers special attention to this point. It is one of great importance in the present day. There are many who profess to admire love, while they care nothing about vital Christianity. They like some of the fruits and results of the Gospel, but not the root from which these fruits alone can grow, or the doctrines with which they are inseparably connected.

Hundreds will praise love who hate to be told of man’s corruption, of the blood of Christ, and of the inward work of the Holy Spirit. Many a parent would like his children to grow up unselfish and good tempered, who would not be very pleased if someone pressed upon their children the need for conversion, and repentance, and faith.

Now I desire to protest against this notion, that you can have the fruits of Christianity without the roots–that you can produce Christian dispositions without teaching Christian doctrines–that you can have love that will wear and endure without grace in the heart.

I grant, most freely, that every now and then one sees a person who seems very loving and amiable, without any distinctive doctrinal religion. But such cases are so rare and remarkable, that, like exceptions, they only prove the truth of the general rule. And often, too often, it may be feared in such cases the apparent love is only external, an in private completely fails. I firmly believe, as a general rule, you will not find such love as the Bible describes, except in the soil of a heart thoroughly endowed with Bible religion. Holy practice will not flourish without sound doctrine. What God has joined together it is useless to expect to have separate and asunder.

The delusion which I am trying to combat is helped forward to a most mischievous decree by the vast majority of novels, romances, and tales of fiction. Who does not know that the heroes and heroines of these works are constantly described as patterns of perfection? They are always doing the right thing, saying the right thing, and showing the right disposition! They are always kind, and amiable, and unselfish, and forgiving! And yet you never hear a word about their religion! In short, to judge by the generality of works of fiction, it is possible to have excellent practical religion without doctrine, the fruits of the Spirit without the grace of the Spirit, and the mind of Christ without union with Christ!

Here, in short, is the great danger of reading most novels, romances and works of fiction. The greater of them give a false or incorrect view of human nature. They paint their model men and women as they ought to be, and not as they really are. The readers of such writings get their minds filled with wrong conceptions of what the world is. Their notions of mankind become visionary and unreal. They are constantly looking for men and women such as they never meet, and expecting what they never find.

Let me entreat my readers, once for all, to draw their ideas of human nature from the Bible, and not from novels. Settle it down in your mind, that there cannot be true love without a heart renewed by grace. A certain degree of kindness, courtesy, amiability, good nature, may undoubtedly be seen in many who have no vital religion. But the glorious plant of Bible love, in all its fullness and perfection, will never be found without union with Christ and the work of the Holy Spirit. Teach this to your children, if you have any. Hold it up in schools, if you are connected with any. Lift up love. Make much of love. Give place to none in exalting the grace of kindness, love, good nature, unselfishness, good temper. But never, never forget that there is but one school in which these things can be thoroughly learned, and that is the school of Christ. Real love comes down from above. True love is the fruit of the Spirit. He that would have it must sit at Christ’s feet and learn of Him.

IV. Let me show, lastly, “why love is called the ‘greatest’ of the graces.”

The words of Paul, on this subject, are distinct and unmistakable. He winds up his wonderful chapter on love in the following manner: “Now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:13).

This expression is very remarkable. Of all the writers in the New Testament, none, certainly, exalts “faith” as highly as Paul. The Epistles to the Romans and Galatians abound in sentences showing its vast importance. By it the sinner lays hold of Christ and is saved. Through it we are justified, and have peace with God. Yet here the same Paul speaks of something which is even greater than faith. He puts before us the three leading Christian graces, and pronounces the following judgment on them,–“The greatest is love.” Such a sentence from such a writer demands special attention. What are we to understand when we hear of love being greater than faith and hope?

We are not to suppose for a moment, that love can atone for our sins, or make our peace with God. Nothing can do that for us but the blood of Christ, and nothing can give us an interest in Christ’s blood but faith. It is unscriptural ignorance not to know this. The office of justifying and joining the soul to Christ belongs to faith alone. Our love, and all our other graces, are all more or less imperfect, and could not stand the severity of God’s judgment. When we have done all, we are “unworthy servants” (Like 17:10).

We are not to suppose that love can exist independently of faith. Paul did not intend to set up one grace in rivalry to the other. He did not mean that one man might have faith, another hope, and another love, and that the best of these was the man who had love. The three graces are inseparably joined together. Where there is faith, there will always be love; and where there is love, there will be faith. Sun and light, fire and heat, ice and cold, are not more intimately united than faith and love.

The reasons why love is called the greatest of the three graces, appear to me plain and simple. Let me show what they are.

(a) Love is called the greatest of graces because it is the one in which there is “some likeness between the believer and his God.” God has no need of faith. He is dependent on no one. There is none superior to Him in whom He must trust.–God has no need of hope. To Him all things are certain, whether past, present, or to come.–But “God is love:” and the more love His people have, the more like they are to their Father in heaven.

(b) Love, for another thing, is called the greatest of the graces because “it is most useful to others.” Faith and hope, beyond doubt, however precious, have special reference to a believer’s own private individual benefit. Faith unites the soul to Christ, brings peace with God, and opens the way to heaven. Hope fills the soul with cheerful expectation of things to come, and, amid the many discouragements of things seen, comforts with visions of the things unseen. But love is preeminently the grace which makes a man useful. It is the spring of good works and kindnesses. It is the root of missions, schools, and hospitals. Love made apostles spend and be spent for souls. Love raises up workers for Christ and keeps them working. Love smooths quarrels, and stops strife, and in this sense “covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Love adorns Christianity and recommends it to the world. A man may have real faith, and feel it, and yet his faith may be invisible to others. But a man’s love cannot be hidden.

(c) Love, in the last place, is the greatest of the graces because it is the one which “endures the longest.” In fact, it will never die. Faith will one day be swallowed up in sight, and hope in certainty. Their office will be useless in the morning of the resurrection, and like old almanacs, they will be laid aside. But love will live on through the endless ages of eternity. Heaven will be the home of love. The inhabitants of heaven will be full of love. One common feeling will be in all their hearts, and that will be love.

I leave this part of my subject here and pass on to a conclusion. On each of the three points of comparison I have just named, between love and the other graces, it would be easy to enlarge. But time and space both forbid me to do so. If I have said enough to guard men against mistakes about the right meaning of the “greatness” of love, I am content. Love, be it ever remembered, cannot justify and put away our sins. It is neither Christ, nor faith. But love makes us somewhat like God. Love is of mighty use to the world. Love will live and flourish when faith’s work is done. Surely, in these points of view, love well deserves the crown.

(1) And now let me ask every one into whose hands this paper may come a simple question. Let me press home on your conscience the whole subject of this paper. Do you know anything of the grace of which I have been speaking? Have you love?

The strong language of the Apostle Paul must surely convince you that the inquiry is not one that ought to be lightly put aside. The grace without which that holy man could say, “I am nothing,” the grace which the Lord Jesus says expressly is the great mark of being His disciple,–such a grace as this demands the serious consideration of every one who is in earnest about the salvation of his soul. It should set him thinking,–“How does this affect me? Do I have love?”

You have some knowledge, it may be, of religion. You know the difference between true and false doctrine. You can, perhaps, even quote texts and defend the opinions you hold. But, remember the knowledge which is barren of practical results in life and temperament is a useless possession. The words of the Apostle are very plain “If I fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, but have not love, I am nothing” (1 Corinthians 13:3).

You think you have faith, perhaps. You trust you are one of God’s elect, and rest in that. But surely you should remember that there is a faith of devils, which is utterly unprofitable, and that the faith of God’s elect is a “faith expressing itself through love.” It was when Paul remembered the “love” of the Thessalonians, as well as their faith and hope, that he said “We know, that He has chosen you” (1 Thessalonians 1:4).

Look at your own daily life, both at home and away, and consider what place the love of Scripture has in it. What is your temperament? What are your ways of behaving toward all around you in your own family? What is your manner of speaking, especially in seasons of irritation and provocation? Where is your good-nature, your courtesy, your patience, your meekness, your gentleness, your toleration? Where are your practical actions of love in your dealing with others? What do you know of the mind of Him who “went around doing good”–who loved everyone, though especially His disciples,–who returned good for evil, and kindness for hatred, and had a heart wide enough to feel for everyone?

What would you do in heaven, I wonder, if you got there without love? What comfort could you have in a home where love was the law, and selfishness and ill-nature completely shut out? Yes! I fear that heaven would be no place for an unloving and ill-tempered man!–Note what a little boy said one day?” If grandfather goes to heaven, I hope that I and my brother will not go there.” “Why do you say that?” he was asked. He replied, “If he sees us there, I am sure he will say, as he does now,–“What are these boys doing here? Let them get out of the way.” He does not like to see us on earth, and I suppose he would not like to see us in heaven.”

Give yourself no rest till you know something by experience of real Christian love. Go and learn of Him who is meek and lowly of heart, and ask Him to teach you how to love. Ask the Lord Jesus to put His Spirit within you, to take away the old heart, to give you a new nature, to make you know something of His mind. Cry to Him night and day for grace, and give Him no rest until you feel something of what I have been describing in this paper. Happy indeed will your life be when you really understand “walking in love.”

(2) But I do not forget that I am writing to some who are not ignorant of the love of Scripture, and who long to feel more of it every year. I will give you two simple words of exhortation. They are these,–“Practice and teach the grace of love.”

Practice love diligently. It is one of those graces, above all, which grow by constant exercise. Strive more and more to carry it into every little detail of daily life. Watch over your own tongue and temper throughout every hour of the day,–and especially in your dealing with children and near relatives. Remember the character of the excellent woman: “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue” (Proverbs 31:26). Remember the words of Paul: “Do everything in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14). Love should be seen in little things as well as in great ones. Remember, not least, the words of Peter: “Love each other deeply;” not a love which just barely is a flame, but a burning, shining fire, which everyone around us can see. (1 Peter 4:8) It may cost pains and trouble to keep these things in mind. There may be little encouragement from the example of others. But persevere. Love like this brings its own reward.

Finally, teach love to others. Press it above all on children, if you have any. Remind them constantly that kindness, good nature, and good disposition are among the first evidences which Christ requires in children. If they cannot know much, or explain doctrines, they can understand love. A child’s religion is worth very little if it only consists in repeating texts and hymns. Useful as they are, they are often learned without thought, remembered without feeling, said over without consideration of their meaning, and forgotten when childhood is gone. By all means let children be taught texts and hymns; but let not such teaching be made everything in their religion. Teach them to keep their tempers, to be kind to one another, to be unselfish, good-natured, obliging, patient, gentle, forgiving. Tell them never to forget to their dying day, if they live as long as Methuselah, that without love the Holy Spirit says, “we are nothing.” Tell them “over all virtues to put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity” (Colossians 3:14).

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First day of classes

This morning started off a little bit rough. I woke up late which is really nothing new except that I have added running into my morning regimen. I debated should I go running or just do the whole sleeping in thing right. After a few minutes of contemplating this issue, I decided to venture out and put on the running clothes. I decided to do a short run which is one of the smartest things I have done recently by far.

As I started out of the house I thought mmm this is a warmer day. I had on my new pair of running pants I had bought from target. This ‘warm’ feeling lasted until I hit the end of the street and then I started to freeze! Not only did I start to freeze, but my nose started running. I didn’t really want to blow my nose just because the weather was nasty (rainy and cold) and usually that is gross. You see runners do not take Kleenexes with them on their run, they merely plug a nostril and then blow to the side. The thought of that though this morning though disgusted me. I decided I would just live with the running nose knowing that the run would be over soon. However, I did end up having to spit. Let me tell you the snot that was in my nose dripped down the back of my mouth, as I tried to spit all that came out was snot. It was not very cooperative snot either as it was thick and did not want to leave my throat. It was almost as if it was trying to choke me. I ended up have to use my my hand (glove covered) to wipe the snot off my mouth and pull the rest of it out of my mouth. I am not sure if it would have just been better to have blown my nose in the first place. Needless to say after this little set back it was quite a good run.

I returned home to take a shower and to get ready for class. Although I was late for class…really it was on time for me. Ever since returning from Africa for some reason I show up one hour to two hours late to places. Today I was only 5 minutes late to class. I will be waking up on time though on Thursday so I can be punctually on time to my class.

My first class of the day was systematic theology II with Dr. Moore. The word theology may sound intimidating but it really is not. Dr. Moore makes theology practical and applicable. Here is a snip-it of how he described in class today systematic theology:

“As we work through theology do not think of levels of knowledge, but understand theology is a war plan that is mapping out for you the way things are for you in Christ and mapping out for you where the pockets of rebellion are for you. Root out obvious errors, but the danger is that we want to do that with the errors we see at that time. That may not be the areas of danger that your people are facing at the time. Just because you are standing against an error does not mean that you are walking in the truth.”

Dr. Moore’s teaching style is geared to be interactive with his students. He gives wonderful examples. Today we were talking about Pantheism and  Panentheism. Under Panentheism are subcategories of animism and New Age. As Dr. Moore starts to describe New Age he gives the example of Pocahontas. To further his example he starts to quote the song from the movie ‘colors of the wind.’ I got a huge smile on my face as he started to quote the song. I couldn’t believe he knew it word for word. After he finished stating the song he said he thought it was scary he knew that song. The whole class busted out laughing. I barely recovered from laughing so hard. He then continued on to say that his first class he taught at Southern he quote Vanilla Ice’s ‘Ice Ice Baby’ song and claimed that he feels like he has down graded with Pocahontas.

After class a friend came over for some lovely tea. Don’t worry there were no spiders invited. It was a very interesting tea as we discussed worldview, exegesis, and the IMB. While we were in the middle of the tea I touched the top of my shirt only to find out that my shirt was on backwards. This is a common problem for me. Often in Africa I was either having to turn my shirt around or I was having to turn it right side out. I always get dressed in the dark and this morning was not an exception. Both my friend and housemate stared and laughed at me as I turned it around correctly. Shortly after this we all had to go to class. As i was preparing my things I ran in my room only yo find my housemate in my room and then she looked at me, laughed, and said that I left my heating blanket on. I died laughing. I couldn’t stop laughing. I was like what were you doing in my bed? She replied I wanted to know how soft your heating blanket was to mine. It was just a weird situation all around, but it made me laugh so I appreciate it.

We all departed to go to our classes. Mine was a three hour intro class to biblical counseling. It is a wonderful class with an amazing teacher. Just from reading the books it has confirmed so many of suspicions of modern day psychology. Grouped into this include but are not limited to the 5 love languages, personality identity, various ‘spiritual tests’ that many churches do, etc. I am really looking forward to learning and also working on my own heart issues.

What are you doing in my drink?

Today has been a very slow day. I woke up at around 12 O’clock. I still have not been feeling very well since my return to America…no I have not been to the doctor yet but am working on it. I called somewhere today only to find out they were for medicaid.I am poor but thanks to Obama, I still have health insurance under my parents. (Thanks pappa!)

One of the things on my to do list was to pick up my friend’s chester drawer. My friend Sharon and Kris made the drive to her former house to pick up the item. We then moved it into her room. Kris and Sharon then put her bed together and we placed the drawer in a good place. After all was said and done Jessica’s room is almost ready for her return. I said my thank you’s and farewells to Chris. After his departure Sharon invited me to a Mexican fiesta dinner with the main dish of enchiladas (yum yum). As she was explaining the invite I walked over to my tea I had made the night before. As I took a sip of it through the straw… I felt something go into my mouth. At first I thought it might be left over tea leaves since I had left the bag in there over night. My initial thought was to just swallow it, however my Africa training kicked in and I realized this was no tea in my mouth it was a creature and I could feel it moving around in there. I ran to the bathroom and spit it out. Sure enough it was a spider that was in my drink. It went straight up my straw and into my mouth. I was freaking out. People this never happened to me while I was in Africa. Everything we eat in Africa is cooked…not a live spider! On top of all that I hate spiders. On my list of things I hate sharks and spiders tie at number one. I was seriously having a freak attack. I was in my room jumping up and down screaming and exclaiming I can’t believe I almost ate that. As I was doing this, Sharon is in the bathroom saying lets kill it…let’s just kill it. The thing was trying to climb up the sink walls. Thank you Sharon for taking care of that little booger for me. He was completely white and a good size. His body was the size of a big pea. I am so thankful for my quick thinking otherwise I would have gotten a little protein and possibly a visit to the ER from a spider bite.

The picture below is an image I found off the internet that has similar traits to the one that was in my mouth. One word for you people…

Gross!

Memories…

Well I have officially been back in America now for a little over one month. I really don’t know how I feel about it.

I love the fact that I was able to spend the Holidays with my family. They are very dear and special people to me, whom I am so thankful for. As I think of the day I re-entered  into America, I was running…yes I said running…towards the exit to see my parents. It was so good to be in my mom’s arms and her telling me that she loved me. I missed this so much while I was away…someone holding me and saying “I love you.”

I had such a good time being back at home and being able to spend time with people at church. Thank you to those of you who took time to hear the stories and to encourage me. Thank you to those who prayed for me while I was away and are continuing to pray for me as I am back at school.

Now I am back in Louisville. I am excited to start life back here again. God has been so faithful in the fact that He has given me time to recoup some along with providing interviews and now job offers along the way. I live in a beautiful house with amazing roommates. These girls are such a blessing to me. They have already been ministering to me in the way in which they treat me and each other. It is truly amazing to be in a community in which Jesus unites us all as one in Himself.  This is truly a picture of the bride.

I have so enjoyed being back in Louisville and being able to spend time with my friends. They have also been a tremendous encouragement to me. A couple of the girls helped me with my struggles while I was in Africa and are continuing to help me work out sin, sinful habits, and bad theology I picked up while I was there. I am so thankful that God has providentially placed biblical counselors in my life to help me analyze and to overcome the  sin in my life. Sometimes I just need to be reminded of scripture and how to put sin off (thanks April! )

Yes, things here are good, but my heart… it still thinks of Africa so much. I see the people’s faces and remember their stories. I know of their lostness and see the hardness of their hearts and how God has given them over to their own foolishness.  I love and miss them all so very much. I still have much of their culture in my mind. It has not been hard adjusting back to America, but I do have to be a little bit self-conscious at times just to make sure I am not acting too African. I will give you a few examples: so I went running the other day with a friend and in the middle of us running I had to go to the bathroom…immediately I start looking for a tree but thankfully remembered there was a bathroom about 1/4 of the mile up the road (yes, we were running on a paved park loop while it was snowing). I have also had a hard time  not eating with my hands. I thought it would be an easy thing to stop but I can’t help it. I just eat so much better with my hands instead of  silver ware. Plus it is less clean up that way.

Continually thoughts of the people I left run through my mind. This includes nationals and my teammates who are still over there. I love them all so much! They work in such a hard environment yet they have so many moments to rejoice about as God continues to show himself to the people of Africa.

Please continue to Pray for me as I start classes and my 2 jobs. Pray that the stories of God revealing himself would penetrate the hearts of the people here in America. Pray for the people working over in Africa as hot season approaches, that they would persevere and exhort one another to finish the race strong with good attitudes and being content even in the low times. Pray that God would send more people. In Mathew 9:35-38 Jesus specifically tells his believers to pray to the LORD of the harvest to send out labors into his harvest.  Pray that God would send out his Holy Spirit among the African people and draw those to whom who he has called. May those who hear his voice follow their shepherd. Pray that the nationals who are believers would be strong in Jesus and stand-fast to the truth as persecution and famine arises.

Eye Shadow

My make-up routine in the mornings is pretty much a non-existent one. However, I do usually put on eye liner, mascara, along with a line of eye shadow right above the lid of my eye to add a little bit of color. I have had the same eye shadow for my lid for about 3 years now. I know some of you are thinking gross, but I have changed my application brush so it isn’t too bad. Although the shadow has not completely run out I am thinking that it is about time to replace the shadow. It has been very good shadow and even survived my trip to Africa and back (no i did not use it in the village that would be so vain). The place I last bought the shadow was Walgreens, but I have been unable to find it. Thankfully the internet is my friend and I found out a way that you can actually put the product in the Walgreens’ website and it will tell you where to locate the product. It is an amazing thing! In this process of trying to locate this brand I ran across a few disturbing items. One of the items is an eye shadow kit that has 88 colors! Really why do you need that many colors. I am pretty sure that there is a law somewhere outlawing some of these colors to be used on the eyes. I mean you would seriously look like a clown by wearing some of these colors. Maybe that is the majority of the population who purchase kits such as this. I am guessing you could also use a kit like this if you were in another type of business…you know what I mean people. Here is they type of kit that I am talking about:

Next you will preview the  error of using a kit such as this.

 

 

 

 

This pictures caption read “bases help colors pop”.  Girl someone needs to be honest with you and tell you that you do not need to be giving make-up advice about colors popping. Someone needs to teach you how to wear it first…meaning you know where to stop that shadow at. It is just too over the top…literally.

This next picture reaches out to all you older people.

 

 

 

Now if you are going to wear make-up get someone to help tell you when it is too much. I understand that your eyes are going out so you don’t realize how much shadow you are putting on so please seek help or just don’t put any on. You are old so people expect you to look like crap…It’s ok really.  Also, if you do decide to wear make-up pay attention to the colors that are in style at the moment. Your extreme blue is just not working any more.

It is so good to have friends that are honest with you and will not let you leave the house when there is something wrong with your outfit or in this case your eye-shadow. This girl may not be so lucky…her friends are really her frienenmies if they let her go out looking like this.

 

 

Look at the determination in her eyes as she applies that shadow. If she is going out for the position of Bozo the clown she has won the part.

Now in the next picture do not be fooled by the model. Yes she is indeed pretty, but seriously I thought we looked to the media for styling tips. Aren’t they the ones telling us what is “in” and how we should be wearing things. Well if this is true we would all look like an ice princess.

 

 

I told you she was a beauty, but really is this practical. Where would you wear this type of make-up?

 

 

Ok so this one is really disturbing. I thought that no matter what you do to Barbie she would always look beautiful. You can cut her hair of, pull her head out and then make her look like she has no neck, etc…no matter what though she still has it. At least I thought until I saw this shocking photo of her:

 

 

 

 

 

Please learn from Barbie’s mistake! Do not let friends purchase eye-shadow kits with 88 colors…Also Friends don’t let friends walk out of the house looking like clowns and prostitutes.

Musicals!

For some time now I have realized that I really like musicals, but could not quite put my finger on the reasonings of my liking. Growing up I would always sit and watch musicals on the weekend with my grandmother. My whole family would pile into the car and head up to our hunting property in Arkansas. I know what you’re thinking…that is so much fun for a little girl growing up…hunting. It really was alot of fun though because of the time I was able to spend with Nanna watching those musicals. One of my favorite musicals was singing in the rain. I loved anything with Jean Kelly in it or Judy Garland. Oh and we must not forget Bing Crosby, he was one of my favorites too. I would sit and watch these movies for hours. There was always something special about watching the plot line unfold on the TV while the cast sing songs that would coincide with the events taking place.

Of course because of my upbringing, I love modern day musicals. In fact, last night I went over to BAJA to watch phantom of the opera. It was fantastic just as I had remembered. I still cannot believe that the Phantom is cutie Jerald Butler. I just can’t get his voice out of my head…amazing is all I can say. Oh and the girl is marvelous. Usually I really don’t like female voices, but she does an amazing job. To think that she was only 17 when she filmed the movie.

All this talk about musicals has been running through my mind…why do I like them so much. It hit me, I love them because I make my life into a musical. It is most likely my love for them that has caused them to become a transferential habit in my life. Now I create my own musical world all around me. I love making up words to go along with beats that go along with whatever is going on in life or I just start signing a tune i think I know but not really. It really does make life interesting and fun though.

Dating

There are several things that I learned over the past month…one of those things is the fact that I have no clue when it comes to guys. Sometimes I don’t think guys realize how complicated they really are. You see my problem is the fact that I don’t know how to get rid of guys. Trust me it is not because I am this wonderful girl…it is because I have a sign on my forehead that reads “You, yes you weird guy ask me out please and then continue to stalk me after I say no.” I have talked to many different guys about the different situations I have been put in, however, each situation is truly unique. Some guys say that the guy is persistent and really interested. This scene often reminds of the scene from the latest Pride and Prejudice Movie.

The scene is set as Elizabeth Bennett, the second oldest child in her family, is asked by her cousin Mr. Collins for a private audience. At this point He lists out the reasons why he is pursuing her. She then tells him no. Instead of respecting her he ignores her request/answer and continues on and says, “I must conclude that you simply seek to increase my love by suspense, according to the usual practice of elegant ladies.” Elizabeth’s reply, “I am not the sort of female to torment a respectable man. Please understand me, I cannot accept you.”

This scene always make me laugh first off just because Mr. Collins so socially awkward. Another reason why it makes me laugh is because of the mere fact of being put in that situation. I think in part guys are just uncertain of how to pursue girls. You have not been taught/told how to  pursue. Guys you may be wondering well how am I to pursue a girl that I am interested in.

For starters, get to know woman first. Do not do this in a one-on-one situation, but create ways in which a group of you can go out. Trust me, you are never going to learn who the girl really is once you tell her you are interested. She will merely become the person she thinks you will be interested in. Another thing you can do is to do ministry beside her. See how you interact together and learn how she handles different situations. Thirdly, if you are interested in a woman make sure and go and talk to the older man that is discipling you. Make sure that your intentions are true,pure and not because you are lusting after her. After you have discussed this over with your teacher then go to the girl’s father and ask for his permission. If the girl’s father is not her spiritual leader then go and ask her elder (always ask for the dad’s permission though in the end it is still his daughter, the person whom God has made responsible for her). This way the Dad/elder will be able to search out your character and to see how the two of you interact. If he finds you an amiable suitor then he can ask his daughters thoughts on the matter. If she says no then it will not put her in conflict with you, but if she says yes then you can proceed with pursuing her.

For more information on this you can visit this link and listen to both sermons on biblical pursuit:

http://ofgreatprice.blogspot.com/2008/12/paul-washer-on-courtship-and-dating.html

Back in the Ville

Recently I have moved back to the ville area. The reason I moved back is to continue my theology learning. Going to Africa was a somewhat reminder of why I was working so hard…God really showed me though that my motives behind the working so hard were incorrect and I needed to be more Him focused and not self focused. You see in my first year in seminary I decided to focus on my situations and throw pity parties for myself. Some say I was burning the candle at both ends, but the true problem with my situation last semester was due to my selfishness. Instead of looking and seeing God’s grace and mercy towards me, I looked at the things that I wanted and didn’t have. I really struggled with God’s goodness and him being sufficient to meet my needs. Thankfully God’s Spirit has taught me truth about Him. It was this truth that kept me from falling completely away from God. God truly upheld me through this difficult time. Africa wasn’t any easier, but God taught me over the past year, through the “trials and difficulties” that he truly is good no matter what I think. God’s character is not dependent on my situation or how I feel about Him, but God is the same yesterday, today, and tomorrow…He is unchanging. If I am struggling with God’s character it is not because what he has done, but it is because of who He is and because of my sinful nature/desires. Since I have more understanding of this does it mean that things are going to be easier this time around at school? probably not, but I have been reminded to be thankful for the time that I have here to build a good foundation, to be thankful for the time I have to spend with people who are here because they love God, and to be thankful for those people who God has put in my life to love me.   Most important I have learned to be motivated ONLY because God is who he says He is.  If I truly love Him, then  will want to know Him more. Meaning that I will want to study the Bible more, for it is how God has chosen to reveal Truth to us.

Do you know the Muffin Man?

The other day I met with a few of my friends at the neighborhood starbucks. At my arrival I saw one of my friends walking with one of the workers out to the trash. Upon first glance I though she was merely helping her take out the trash, however, once my friend finally sat down she was telling us how you just never know what is going on in people’s lives. She then proceeded to tell the other girls and myself that she has a friend that blogs everyday about a different person that she encounters. On her blog she describes the person and may tell of a struggle or a story that the person told her. This is a way of accountability for her so that she does not over look people she comes in contact with but actually sees people. As my friend told me this I started realizing how easy it is to fall back into the American way of life. Let me explain: it just seems that in America we are too busy for one another. I look at my life since I have been back in the states and am overwhelmed by the business. It appears that I have not been able to really catch my breath as I am so busy trying to do the “right” things. I am trying to meet with people before I move back, I am trying to check up on my college girls, trying to spend time with family, striving to right letters, and trying to get out and talk to people who have said that they wanted to hear of the trip. I am looking into the abyss of business and seeing there literally will be no end to it unless I put the end to it. It is so funny as I look back and think that I have conquered something in my life…here I thought that I did not need help saying no, but I see that it is not so. However, if I do not start saying no to people my life will be over run by chaos and everyone will start to become people. I will stop seeing people for who they are and start seeing them as the blur of the chaos that is running around me.

And Here We Are…

As I sit and stare at the blank screen so many things come to my mind that I wish to write on. There are so many questions that I have…I am confident I already have the answers to many of the questions, but in that confidence I am also unsure of the things that I once knew; therefore, that which I think I possess knowledge of now I am unsure.  You see as more truth is revealed through total truth (the bible) and the Holy Spirit I start to see the things which I was so confident in become a blur.  I see how the things that I live my life by…well they are sometimes shady.  I look back and I see how many countless decisions have been made out of a feeling and not based off of any true reality. Thankfully God is changing my worldview. Instead of seeing things through my broken sense of reasoning, I see that God has spoken and has given us so much discernment in his word (absolute truth). He does not only use his word to penetrate my “spiritual” life whatever that means, but his word penetrates every area of my life. He is to affect every area of my life just as HIV affects every cell in the body. The difference between HIV and God though is that first off God does not hide himself within the cell or disguise himself in an old cell, but when God infects a person He is transforming that person into himself and He starts out by giving the person a new heart…not infecting the heart that will always reject Him.